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Emily Warburton Jensen juggles writing and editing while mommy-ing four mostly delightful children. She returns to the Deseret News after seven years, excited to cover the Bloggernacle.

She is a former Ricks College journalist and Utah State University journalist, and majored in print journalism in 2001. She loves to ski, horseback ride, sing, travel and she enjoys dark chocolate.

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Bloggernacle Back Bench: Dealing with infertility
By Emily W. Jensen
Tuesday, Nov. 10, 2009
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"Our little miracle is here!"

It's a happy ending for a "Long Awaited Day." Why was it long awaited? Because this couple had struggled with infertility for years, finally finding out that the wife had PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) which, after it was treated, resulted in their "little miracle."

I regularly find blogs depicting the struggles of infertility. I also see many "We want to adopt" buttons on blogs, posted and passed along by Mormon couples searching for adoption opportunities. The blog format is friendly to this type of struggle as those dealing with infertility find resources, counsel and/or sympathy from their readers. And the blog button, as an advertising mechanism, spreads the word, hopefully matching parents to a oh-so-wanted child.



Here are a few examples of those struggling with infertility using blogs to tell their stories:

I just want to laugh and cry as I read Ashley's thoughts on Feigning Fertility. She describes the joy and hardship of being pregnant, the grief in miscarrying and the elation of adopting. She also invites anyone who wishes to share their infertility stories with an e-mail. And find why she says "Infertility hurts. Even when you are pregnant."

"As someone who has gone though infertility I wanted to make this site for others to come and share their stories and to raise understanding and awareness." So explains Dawn-Marie, the blogger behind the Infertility Group. I liked, in scrolling down her blog, her sweet Spiritual Sundays posts, highlighting talks given on infertility.

Mormon Mommy Blogs has an entire category of blogs on Infertility as well as one on Adoption and Foster Care, where I found an LDS Family Services: Birth Parent Group blog. They announce that November is National Adoption Month, which might explain why I've seen more blogs spotlighting adoptions lately. What a nice resource!

And speaking of amazing resources, the church has provided a site dedicated to "Articles on Infertility." Even for those not struggling with infertility, they wisely explain that many couples are "faced with the challenge of not being able bear their own children. This results in great disappointment, frustration, anger, guilt and loss. Infertility can be the result of many different situations. Infertility may result from a health condition of both or either spouse. Regardless of the situation, all deserve understanding, compassion and support. Judging childless couples unfairly can result in stereotypes, isolation and greater feelings of guilt."

And while this is not an official church Web site, LDSinfertility.org is full of amazing information. Learn about the challenges of infertility, join support groups, and share your trials and experiences. I appreciated how the site describes the LDS Church position on infertility. Click to read more.

Finally, let me leave you with this spiritual video depicting infertility and adoption and one woman's lesson on "Trusting in the Lord."

Let's adopt other amazing posts from this last week in the Bloggernacle:

Power pick: "We are free to believe in Christ now" explained an old gentleman on the streets of Sofia, Bulgaria. Nov. 9 was the 20th anniversary of when "The Wall Fell" in Berlin, and this beautiful post explains how this landmark event influenced at least one woman's missionary effort. People were "free to believe in Christ because a wall fell down."

Techie tip: For those who want adoption resources, the best place to begin is the Adopting Families section of It's About Love. Find answers to questions, real-life stories and many other adoption resources. They counsel, "Adoption is a major step ... Some couples hope to adopt due to infertility, which can be an extremely difficult challenge. Infertility can lead to feelings of loss, disillusionment and failure, and it can cause strain in a marriage relationship. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process in your own way." And then, wonderfully, they provide many resources to "help you determine if adoption is the right path for you."



E-mail: ejensen@desnews.com
Emily Jensen aggregates topics of interest found around the bloggernacle in her column “Bloggernacle Back Bench,” which appears on MormonTimes.com on Tuesdays. She also compiles a list of blogs she likes every weekday.

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